On 3/1/12, Junaid Tahir <mjunaidtahir@gmail.com> wrote:
> I have noticed in my 33 years of life that human mind tends to think
> negative more as compared to positive. There are several contributing
> factors for negative thinking such as, bad official or personal
> circumstance, financial issues , medical problems and/or family bonding. In
> this article I am going to touch some of issues which lead human mind
> towards negativity, consequently killing the peace of mind.
>
>
>
> *Personal Circumstances*: Once I read somewhere that life is what 20%
> happens to you and 80% how you react to it. Its true; believe me. Its only
> our own thinking & reactions responsible for our peace of mind. No matter
> what are the circumstances, there is always a way out. My personal approach
> to fix the BIG issues is to break the BIG issue into several smaller issues
> and start fixing one by one; one at a time. Always remember that keep
> thinking negative on issues will keep increasing the weight of the
> problems. It's just like holding the glass of water for one minute compared
> to holding this for one hour. If you hold a glass for one hour, your
> shoulder and arm will start paining. This is how your negative thoughts
> kills your brain and takes away your peace of mind.
>
>
>
> *Misunderstanding:* there is a quote: "I am responsible for what I said but
> not responsible for what you understood". I personally agree with this
> however I would like to add that the responsibility falls on both, the
> speaker and the listener . The speaker is to make sure that he has
> elaborated his point very well by using right words and proper details. The
> Listener is to make sure that he understands things correctly. In case of
> ambiguity, he needs to ask again, even again if something is unclear else
> there is a serious chance that a negative thing is going to be concluded.
> Clarity in our day to day communication can definitely wash away the
> element of misunderstanding. So I stop this paragraph with famous quote
> "Seek first to understand and then to be understood"
>
>
>
> *Financial Limitations:** *Life is beautiful, we make it tough by putting a
> lot of weight by adding more and more wishes into it. I would suggest
> always try to differentiate between Needs and Wants. Try to live in your
> needs and you won't be sad again. Another advice would be to think of
> less-fortunate people quite often instead of always dreaming about rich
> people. If you want to become rich, start working on it by preparing a
> concrete plan, however don't let this plan & actions to steal your peace of
> mind. Don't allow your brain to adopt short cuts which are based on
> negative strategies. Negative approaches result in negative outcomes;
> sooner or later so be positive and adopt positive approaches.
>
> * *
>
> *Family Relations:* Having healthy family relations is a real blessing.
> This is something you can find hundreds of books in the market or on
> internet. However, I must say that each one of us must learn the tips and
> techniques to have healthy family relationships. A straight forward
> approach to resolve small conflicts is to 'Convince or Get Convinced'.
> There shouldn't be anything in between. For the bigger issues, the
> suggestion is to break the problem in small issues and fix it one by one,
> as stated earlier.
>
> Further, we must develop the power of patience in ourselves. Patience also
> means listening other empathetically and understand other's point of view.
> This helps conclude right things.
>
> * *
>
> *Office Stress:* I have developed my own formula to manage office stress in
> order to reduce/fix the negative thoughts and stress. The formulae is that
> for any given situation apply two filters to the problem. First filter is
> to ask yourself whether this issue is really something I should be worried
> about. If not, just drop and you are done. Second filter is that can I
> "Park" this problem for sometime so I can concentrate on other things and
> use my healthy brain for other positive things. 'Parking' has some
> advantages… for example, you are controlling your mind not to think of this
> particular issue for the time being and hence avoiding negativity and
> stress. Sometimes the issues are resolved at their own as we move along.
> However, if any issue really needs to be fixed then we should develop the
> power of analyzing the situation at Work Break Down level so that we can
> fix all small issues which are the root cause of the original issue.
>
> Article written by Junaid Tahir (mjunaidtahir -at- gmail.com). Feel free to
> share your feedback.
>
>
>
> * *
>
> Conclusion: No one is in charge of your happiness except you so control
> your thoughts since thoughts are the driving force for your actions which
> are defining your character and character is the most important ingredient
> of your destiny.
>
> Article written by Junaid Tahir (mjunaidtahir -at- gmail.com). Feel free to
> share your feedback
>
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> *http://paradigmwisdom.blogspot.com/
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